Here's my almost-nine-year-old's nature journal drawing from this morning - salvaged from the trash can after being torn out of his nature journal, crumpled up and put in the trash.
I thought it was one of his best paintings.
Unfortunately, jumping in the waves all day, getting too much sun, and staying up late yesterday did not bode well for his attitude today. He didn't want to draw. All the neighborhood kids are out for summer and hang out outside all day long. Why shouldn't he? All day?
I made him draw in his nature journal instead. Mean mama!
Not quite the picture of Charlotte Mason perfection - Boy in love with nature. Boy cherishing nature journal. Boy copiously recording all manner of fantastic detail of every new discovery in said journal. Boy rushing with joy to mother sharing journal. No, not the picture in our home today.
I told him to take a nap. When he got up, he went and got his drawing, taped it back together and decided to keep it. I'm glad he did.
Where exactly is that ambiguous line between doing what's right for a boy and being too hard on him? I find myself searching for it on days like these.
Friday, June 29, 2012
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
And dew-bright webs festoon the grass
In roadside fields at morning. ~Elizabeth Akers
The general shape of the web is like that of a broad funnel with a tube leading down at one side. This tube is used as a hiding place by the architect, the grass spider, which thus escapes the eyes of its enemies, and also keeps out of sight of any insects that might be frightened at seeing it, and so avoid the web. But the tube is no cul-de-sac; quite to the contrary, it has a rear exit, through which the spider, if frightened, escapes from attack.
The web is formed of many lines of silk crossing each other irregularly, forming a firm sheet. This sheet is held in place by many guy-lines, which fasten it to surrounding objects. If the web is touched lightly, the spider rushes forth from its lair to seize its prey; but if the web be jarred roughly, the spider speeds out through its back door and can be found only with difficulty. ~Handbook of Nature Study, p.438
I think this may not be called a grass spider because it is larger. It lives on a succulent in the succulent garden at the top of Laguna Niguel botanical garden. I found something online saying the most common funnel web spiders in Southern California are called 'hololena' or 'calilena'. In any case, it has a much larger funnel web than the grass funnel web spiders I have seen locally.
Now that our fourth child is just over a year old and toddling around on his two fat wobbly legs which carry him to investigate whatever interests him in the moment, I am finding myself back in the throes of training once again.
Just to name a few things that have been of interest to him...
- tasting and carrying away the wet dirty utensils being loaded in the dishwasher
- taking out and carrying tupperware and plastic cups/dishes to all the vast ends of his little toddler world
- pulling out clothes from the laundry basket and making piles
- grabbing ashes from the fireplace and smothering it all over the floor
- pulling out book after book from the bookshelf and ripping whatever his fat little fingers can manage to grab and pull
- pulling out freshly planted summer plants and throwing them all over
- finding siblings' sticks, play swords, the broom, etc. and flailing it around whacking family members while giggling adorably.
- pulling out boxes of cereal and dumping them
- digging through the garbage and eating whatever tasty items he finds
- sloshing Daddy's socks in the toilet
- throwing cups, plates and food on the floor during mealtime
Add to that some of the common dangers...
- pulling the cat's tail, patting (smacking!) the kitty on the head
- running out the front door when the door is accidentally left open
- climbing stairs - electrical outlets
- choking on something he puts in his mouth
It's no wonder people ask me what I do with the little ones while homeschooling!
We do what we can right? Wear them in the carrier, contain them in the playpen, offer them interesting things to keep them occupied, feed them finger foods in the high chair... but children are born persons - they want to explore and experience all that life has in store for them. And eventually, they have to learn to become a part of the ordered life in our home - for us, the sooner the better. By the time our kids were around a year old and starting to walk, they were already causing havoc in our home.
I do have friends who believe children will grow into people who respect things and homes and dangers, that it has more to do with age than training and that they simply aren't capable until they're "older". So they equip their homes with every safety gate, level, handle, gadget on the market to manage them through this "phase" and mold their homes and their entire lives around their toddling little tyrant.
But if children are born persons and habits are the ruts that our lives run in, then the rut a one year old carves for himself today will be the one he runs in tomorrow *unless* we invest great strain of effort to carve a new rut for him in the future.
It's a sobering thought don't you think?
As a new homeschooler you are entering a whole new exciting world with your children and there is much to learn about educational styles, methods, curriculum, schedules, connecting with others, etc.
But please, PLEASE don't miss this one point Charlotte Mason makes, it can make or break your homeschooling days no matter how good the rest is:
The mother who takes pains to endow her children with good habits secures for herself smooth and easy days... ~Charlotte Mason, Vol.1, p.136
When at eight months old my son starts grabbing the glass in front of him on the table - my initial reaction is to move it away and give him something else to play with, which he does... for a moment, but then he goes right back to the glass. So I can conform the world to him or begin training his will.
Conforming the world to him, if we play this out to its true end, means that anytime he is at a table - at home, a friend's, a restaurant or anywhere else, I will have to clear the table in front of him of all things as a form of damage control. What has the child learned?
On the other hand, training his will means that we don't move the glass, instead we teach him he is not to touch it. Think of it, where did God place the tree in the garden? There is no training of the will without temptation and the required effort to resist ourselves from it.
In our home that begins by me holding the glass and removing his hand from it saying "No touch" in a calm voice. Then I let go of the glass until he tries again and I repeat the process, this time giving his hand a swat with my hand that is strong enough to get his attention and gentle enough that it doesn't really hurt, then I remove his hand again. He is naturally offended and cries, when he comes back to touch it again, I repeat the process, swatting a little stronger to make my point without really hurting him in any way, saying "No touch" calmly again. If he still tries to touch after three or four times I move him from the table and distract him to something else until the next time he encounters the same glass again. I may keep the glass there for him to see it the next time he sits down to see what he does.
I know some parents will not swat and I am not claiming this is the only way to train a child. This is what works in our home and what we choose for our family.
I prefer to train the kids at home - I dislike my kids fussing a whole lot in public so I may go out of my way to avoid the conflict at a restaurant, but set him in front of the glass again at home to continue giving him opportunities to resist his desire to touch it.
At eight months, my son learned not to touch (not perfectly, but well enough) in about a week of consistent training. When I see my son stop himself from touching something in response to me saying "No touch," I praise his efforts. In the future, when he ignores my request not to touch, I repeat the process again, now managing a habit that is in place.
I think it's important to keep in mind at this time that he's not doing anything naughty by wanting to touch the glass, that's part of his natural curiosity. He is being naughty when he knows I don't want him to touch it and then goes for it. That's why I think it's important to ask him not to touch it first before swatting. I also think it's important to give them opportunities to touch a lot of different things in addition to training him. Plastic toys are not that interesting, they really aren't. Water, dirt, sand, wood, grass, shape, texture, etc. give them the exploration they crave to make it easier to resist the glass.
Starting this training at two or three years old when they are already in a bad habit of getting their way is a whole different situation. Now you're talking about carving new tracks out of bad ones, which is very, very possible, I think it just means that you're going to have a lot of resistance to overcome initially, and you're going to have to *calmly* persist for much longer before you find them controlling their will.
Sitting in my lap is another habit I think is good to train. Whether at church or in a waiting room or at a friend's house or while reading a book with the kids at home, it's helpful for my child to be able to sit on my lap for a time. So when we have some time at home, I sit him on my lap and give him something to play with in his hands. Within a minute, he's thrown it on the floor and is trying to slide down. My initial reaction is to want to let him down to avoid the fuss, but just by saying "No, sit." calmly and keeping him there, he eventually learns to sit. He'll fuss and twist and arch back and try to slide down again and again and he may even get a really good cry going, but after a short while he settles down and learns to sit. No swatting needed, just keeping him in my lap makes the point well enough.Sometimes a distraction like "Is that a bird? Did you hear a bird?" or "Who is that outside? Do you hear something?" will quickly distract him from his fussing for a time also and gives him the needed break to help calm his rebellion. Once he's calmed down, I will keep him there for a couple of minutes and then let him go so he learns he gets what he wants when he is calm. Again, I have many more opportunities to take up the training again so I'm happy to let him go after a short while and then keep him longer with time.
Two other habits that I think are helpful to train once they start walking are "Stop" and "Come to mommy" for obvious reasons. Investing the time to establish these kinds of habits early on in a calm way really has paved the road for us to be able to do school while the baby toddles around and plays. It also sets the stage for good future habits since they are already gaining control of their will at a young age. The one year old who learns not to touch has less effort to become the two year old who learns to control their screaming and the three year old who learns to control their attitude because they are building on their past efforts.
There are many other things that a child of one can learn. We put something to our nose and sniff in and out loudly so he knows it is something to smell - spices in the pantry, the rose in the garden, the sage on the hike, Daddy's pillow, fresh fruit, lotions, clean hair, cut grass, etc.
With our hands we can focus their attention on a bird in flight, the sway of a tree in the wind while blowing gently on his cheek, a noise we hear by pointing to our ear and cocking our head.
The Kindergarten 'Occupations' afford opportunities for training in this kind of faithfulness; but in the home a thousand such opportunities occur; if only in such trifles as the straightening of a tablecloth or of a picture, the hanging of a towel, the packing of a parcel––every thoughtful mother invents a thousand ways of training in her child a just eye and a faithful hand.~Vol. 1, p.180
Another great habit to cultivate is a settled temper in the home. It is the running around and constant activity of children that causes many adults to want to escape and what causes many friends to stop inviting families over to their home. I am all for jumping around having a great time, but our kids should also be able to be settled in the home without TV, without being entertained. They should be able to find something to do with the simple things around the home. As far as I'm concerned, when it comes to my kids, boredom is the mother of all kinds of invention. When they come to me in anguish that they have nothing to do, I am always elated to see them because I just so happen to have some sweeping, scrubbing, and cleaning needing to be done ;-)
Once more, the Kindergarten professes to take account of the joyousness of the child's nature: to allow him full and free expression for the glee that is in him, without the 'rampaging' which follows if he is left to himself to find an outlet for his exuberant life. This union of joy and gentleness is the very temper to be cultivated in the nursery. The boisterous behaviour sometimes allowed in children is unnecessary––within doors, at any rate: but even a momentary absence of sunshine on the faces of her children will be a graver cause of uneasiness to the mother. On the whole, we may say that some of the principles which should govern Kindergarten training are precisely those in which every thoughtful mother endeavours to bring up her family; while the practices of the Kindergarten, being only ways, amongst others, of carrying out these principles, and being apt to become stereotyped and wooden, are unnecessary, but may be adopted so far as they fit in conveniently with the mother's general scheme for the education of her family. ~Vol.1, p.181Good habits open the door to manageable homeschool days, a liveable home, and best of all, the ability to enjoy your kids more often than not :)
Friday, June 22, 2012
The more observant one is, the more one can find in the natural world to inspire awe. Cultivating your child's powers of observation is like handing that child an antidote against boredom and an inoculation from becoming jaded. I want my children to have what Douglas Wilson calls a Contempt for the Cool, and part of my strategy is to help them fall in love with the natural world.
Charlotte Mason used nature notebooks in her schools as a way of sharpening her students' power of observation, and it was an integral part of their nature study. The students used watercolors and wrote down observations. Mason writes of the benefits of an observant mind sharpened by nature study: “...a love of Nature, implanted so early that it will seem to them hereafter to have been born in them, will enrich their lives with pure interests, absorbing pursuits, health, and good humour...It is infinitely well worth of the mother's while to take some pains every day to secure, in the first place, that her children spend hours daily amongst rural and natural objects; and, in the second place, to infuse into them, or rather to cherish in them, the love of investigation.”
Recognizing a flycatcher from a distance by its flight pattern, or finding a woodrat's home under the tress, or finding harlequin bug nymphs on a bladderpod, these are the rewards of a careful eye. My children amaze me with the treasures they find and the creatures they recognize, often in what looks to me to be an unrewarding piece of land. The moms in my nature group are as enthusiastic as the children, and also come running and shrieking to share in the discoveries to be had. As a good friend recently said of us with a smile, we can be quite embarrassing.
I started keeping a nature journal shortly after starting my boys on theirs. It has since turned into a favorite hobby. At the moment, my favorite art supplies for use in my nature journal are Micron pens and tube watercolors. I sketch with a 3B pencil, I then redraw with pen, erase the pencil marks, and add details with watercolors. I use a Micron 05 005 to draw with and I write with a Micron 05. My sketch book has 140 lb. watercolor paper.
I used to let a single detailed drawing or two speak for itself on a page.
But since being inspired by another mom's nature journal , I've included more writing. And I have learned much, researching facts to fill my page with. I also sporadically include the French name of a given drawing in my journal.
All of our drawing are done from direct observation outdoors, from a specimen brought home, or from pictures in field guides.
We label each page with the date, the location of the nature walk, and the species. This is my eight year old's journal:
This year we've included more comparisons of like species and anatomy into our journals, like this sketch by my ten year old:
Using our nature journals on trips is our favorite. If I read to them while they draw it's even more fun.
The way we use our nature journals is always changing as I get inspired by other Charlotte Mason moms, art books, and blogs. I love seeing how other people are using their nature journals these days. If you have any other ideas, please share!
Friday, June 15, 2012
California Sunflower (Encelia)
There were other yellow, telegraph weed type flowers in bloom as well as some purple flowers I never seem to be able to identify.
We also found a tick crawling up a little girl's pants, two crawling across a picnic blanket, and one in my daughter's hair on the drive home - that was exciting!! We put it in a magnifying glass container and were guilty of "ticking" while driving :)
Arica found these large funnel webs along the side of the trail out to Barbara's Lake. The kids collected bugs and dropped them in the web and here's what happened:
You can read more about those on p.438 of The Handbook of Nature Study. I love that they include bits of poetry in there:
And dew bright webs festoon the grass
In roadside fields at morning
Isabella painting California Everlasting
Ladybug on Black Sage
And here's a sweet song Isabella sent me for the kids about the parts of a flower: